Brenda Laurel has a nice metaphor about the butler vs the horse for assistance.

· Bits and Bobs 5/13/24

The butler model robs you of agency.

The horse is a powerful, independent thing that you are in tune with.

The horse is stronger and faster than you.

Your intelligence is much higher than the horse's.

The horse's strength and your intelligence combine into a unit that is greater than what either of you could do alone.