Dysfunctionally conscientious people feel shame so acutely that it leads to maladaptive outcomes.
- Dysfunctionally conscientious people feel shame so acutely that it leads to maladaptive outcomes.
- They normally are so self-censoring that they never even produce a thing they don't think is perfect.
- When someone gives them negative feedback about a thing they didn't realize was bad it feels like an existential threat.
- So they sometimes lash out at the person who said it and try to punish them for it and get them to apologize.
- This is something I've discovered about myself in over a decade of couples counseling.