A conscientious person can get in a toxic martyr loop.

  • A conscientious person can get in a toxic martyr loop.
    • (Something I discovered about myself, with great effort, in years of couple's counseling.)
    • The martyr sees a thing the group needs, and they jump in to do it... but resent having to do it.
    • Sometimes they do work that no one asked for, and also don't do a particularly good job at it, and all it manufactures is resentment.
    • A savior needs a thing to save.
    • Which means sometimes they'll break things, or allow things to break, so they have things to save.