At some point you have to trust the other person in the details.

  • At some point you have to trust the other person in the details.
    • If you had to confirm every single detail of another person's work down to the ground truth, you wouldn't be able to get anything done.
      • It's not even that it wouldn't be any faster than doing it yourself, it's that it would be much slower, because communicating via language is orders of magnitude more expensive than communicating directly through vibe-embeddings in your own head.
      • There's a combinatorial explosion of details to dig into as you pop each layer down.
      • As you dive into details, especially if you're intellectually intimidating or outrank the person, it can come across as extremely aggressive, people shut down and get defensive, which is the opposite of what you want.
        • It enervates people, makes engaging exhausting; they're more likely to disengage and try to minimize contact.
      • To realign people's minds, they have to be open, feel strong.
    • At a certain point you have to decide, "I trust you to get everything below here correct."
    • Trust is the thing that allows magic to happen, to get more output together than you could alone.
      • Trust is the shortcut that allows the group to skip extremely expensive ground truthing.
    • We all must trust everyone to some degree, or nothing would ever happen.
    • But some people are more willing to trust at a higher level of abstraction than others, or are more willing to give someone the benefit of the doubt faster.
      • Some people really need to be convinced with lots of experience with a given person at a level before they are happy to trust them.
    • If you're quick to trust people in a group, you can help inspire people to do their best work.
      • When people betray that trust–not by not being good enough, but by doing something bad faith–you have to immediately recalibrate how much trust to give them.
    • Someone who can only trust ideas, not people, would slow down everyone around them, compelling them to convince him to his preferred level of detail before anything happens.
    • Are you quick to trust or slow to trust?
      • What do you want to be?

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