It's not possible to grapple with an intelligence an order of magnitude more powerful than you.

It might be more powerful than you in speed or capability… or both.

It's not just being outgunned, but not even being aware of how outgunned you are.

It might be able to control you in ways you might not be able to sense, let alone understand.

True for scramblers in Blindsight, but also true with anything that might be an order of magnitude more capable than you.

It could be playing you and you'd have no idea.

A relationship with an asymmetrically powerful intelligence is all-encompassing, it's more of an environment.