Socialization is a two-way process, not a one-way process.
The default stance for socialization is often "I try to cram my idea into a critical mass of other people's heads, using whatever path wedges it in there most efficiently."
The goal is not to figure out a way to cram your idea into the other person's head.
It is to share your insights and listen to theirs, to synthesize an idea that is better than what either of you had individually before.
Socialization is primarily a co-creation process, not a convincing process.
The idea should change as you socialize; it should improve, become more nuanced, more realistic, more grounded.